“Hurts Me To Hate You,” ROREY’s new single, resonates with anyone who has ever carried inner anger or resentment toward someone they love. It captures both the draining burden of holding on and the release that comes with realizing that letting go is the only way forward.
Based in New York, the singer crafts songs so genuine they feel like open wounds transformed into art. She wrote this track at 21, at a time when she realized that clinging to anger toward her mother wasn’t a shield; it was a prison that kept her in pain.
Accepting that reality was a turning point in her life. “At the end of the day, I am responsible for my emotions—not my mother. You can’t control other people. It has taken me years to get there,” she remembers.
With a delicate yet piercing delivery, ROREY reflects on the paradox of needing closeness from someone who can’t always give what you expect. As she puts it, “Even though she may never fully understand me, I still wanted her in my life. And that meant accepting her for who she is and what she’s capable of giving.” That line captures the essence of the song: peace isn’t found in control, but in radical acceptance.
Musically, “Hurts Me To Hate You” maintains the ethereal style the artist has been building since her EP “Dysphoria.” Co-written and produced in 2021 with her longtime collaborator Scott Effman, the project was born during a manic episode, capturing chaos and vulnerability in equal measure. Its ghostly melodies and stripped-back instrumentation let her voice hold the full emotional weight. The result is a track that sounds fragile yet powerful, like a whispered truth that hurts and cannot be forgotten.
The song’s music video deepens that honesty. By inviting her mother to take part, she turns what could have been a private confession into a moment of shared healing. It all begins with a discussion and a complaint and ends in a hug that brings them closer. It was a brave artistic decision that foregrounds the central theme: growth isn’t about erasing pain but about moving through it and healing it.
Having earned support from Zane Lowe, Ladygunn, and Office Magazine, along with placements on editorial playlists like Fresh Finds, New Music Daily, and New in Pop, ROREY has already shown her music resonates with listeners seeking authenticity. This release strengthens that path, establishing her as a well-rounded, honest artist who can articulate uncomfortable truths with clarity and grace.
“Hurts Me To Hate You” hurts, yes, but it’s also liberating. It reminds us that we can’t control others, but we can and must take responsibility for our emotions.
