If you’re polyamorous or curious about ethical non-monogamy, it can be difficult to find open-minded people who are accepting of your interests. It’s not easy to find the right moment to share this information with someone you met at a neighborhood bar or traditional dating app. You need a place where you can connect with folks who are open to ethical non-monogamy, and that promotes safety at the same time. The best place to begin is a polyamorous dating site. This is where you will find likeminded singles to explore and make the community connections you crave.
Feeld – An Inclusive App That Encourages Exploration
Feeld is a dating app and social platform for individuals who want to explore relationships, sexuality, and connections in an affirming community. People who download the app can connect with up to five other profiles as friends, romantic partners, sub, doms, and more. This is ideal for anyone who wants to include other members of their polycule or throuple as they explore new connections. Finally, Feeld is a platform for making real life connections in your own community. Feeld socials holds real life events that allow new and existing members to meet and enjoy socializing over shared interests.
Community Vibe – Sex positive and rooted in acceptance of lifestyles and relationships that don’t meet mainstream expectations.
Taimi – Where Queer-Aligned Polyamorous Folks Meet
Taimi is a potential alternative to other polyamorous dating sites, if you prefer an option that is decidedly LGBTQ+ friendly. In addition to being designed for the queer community, Taimi welcomes people who are exploring or fully-experienced in ethical non-monogamy. To that end, Taimi users can select non-monogamy as their preferred relationship type, and connect their account with up to five other users.
If you choose to explore this dating platform, be sure to check out Taimi in-person. This is the feature that allows event organizers to promote local events for the queer community. Members appreciate having access to curated opportunities to connect with community members in real life.
Community Vibe – Unapologetically queer, creative, and open-minded where authenticity thrives.
Plura – Where Polyamorous Folks Find Love And Friendship
Plura was created as a safe place for polyamorous people to meet and forge new relationships. People can use the app to find primary romantic partners, metamours, friends, and other connections. They are encouraged to allow relationships with the people they meet to develop naturally, and to be open-minded.
Plura also works with event partners in different cities to hold live events. They host cocktail hours, outdoor events, and other gatherings to help users develop a sense of community where they live.
Community Vibe – Comfortable and natural with an emphasis on moving from the screen to local events.
OKCupid
OKCupid is a mainstream dating platform. However, it is also open to folks who practice ethical non-monogamy. Please note that if you have a partner, you and they will have to create separate profiles. There is not a way to link accounts. Instead, members are encouraged to mention existing partners in their user profile. OKCupid enforces a strict rule that anyone who signs up indicating they are in a relationship must choose non-monogamous as their relationship type. Further, claiming to be single when you are partnered is a violation of terms of service.
OKCupid emphasizes deeper connections that come from sharing honest information about yourself, your goals, your interests, and your values. The result is that you find people locally who are deeply aligned with you.
Community Vibe – Focuses on deeper compatibility as a way to develop lasting relationships.
Lex – A Queer Poly-Friendly App Where Community Matters
Lex is a dating app that also bridges the gap for people who want to move from online connections to real life communities. It doesn’t just emphasize romantic connections. Users can find friends, and take part in local events with likeminded people.
To help foster a sense of community, each member completes a user bio along with an essay-style post that reads like a personal ad. They can then begin exploring other profiles and making connections. There are also community groups and promoted events that are ideal for anyone who wants to meet folks in their community, but isn’t sure where they poly-queer people are.
Community Vibe – A throwback where different types of relationships are valued, and finding folks where you are is the goal.
Regain Your Sense of Community
Polyamory has always been about finding your people, and recognizing that romantic love is an extension of community – not an alternative to it. The apps listed above work quite well for dating, but also for expanding your social networks in meaningful ways. If you have struggled to meet other open minded people in your city, one or more of these apps may help you discover a community you never knew existed.
