8 Best Tips Every Loving Couple Should Know
It is not so easy to find true love, but it is only half the battle. It is important to maintain that tender feeling, overcome difficulties together with your loved one, and maintain relationships in harmony.
We would like to bring to your attention 8 simple rules that will help you build a strong and happy romantic relationship.
1. Set the rules
Arrangements are not an attempt to limit one’s freedom; it is an opportunity to create a common language between people in love. The way your partner perceives the distribution of duties, financial issues, the possibility of sex on the side, and joint and separate rest can be radically different from yours. It is not necessary to wait for a major quarrel to find out what he thinks about it all. Set the rules in advance and follow them.
2. Do not try to outfox a loved one
You probably heard the tips, like, “Be more cunning, keep silent and do it your own way,” “Just do it, then she will understand that it’s better that way.” All these are tricks and manipulations that harm relationships. If you cannot come to an agreement with your loved one openly and continue to do what is unacceptable for your loved one, you should either reconsider your position or change the partner.
3. Do not require telepathic powers from a partner
Nature gave men a speech apparatus, so use it according to its intended purpose. Tell your partner what you like and dislike, what you expect from romantic relationships, what actions upset you, and what makes you happy. And certainly, you should not blame a loved one for not knowing what you are offended by.
4. Do not ignore alarm triggers
In most relationships, there is a presentation period when both partners try to seem better than they really are. And if already at the rose and candy stage, you see some danger signals – do not ignore them; trust your intuition.
Unreasonable outbursts of aggression, rudeness towards the waiters, unflattering statements about former partners, and other things that cause concern can be easily attributed to “it just a fancy” and “he/she will change.” Most likely, such concern is feasible and your partner will not get better. Take an unbiased look at whether you are ready to face such negative manifestations on a regular basis.
5. Check out if relationships make your life easier
If your love story consists only of difficulties, overcoming, quarrels, and rare but vivid fits of happiness, this is a toxic relationship. People quickly get used to the emotional rollercoaster when despair and delight follow each other and can consider themselves quite happy with it.
But answer yourself honestly, does a partner make your life easier or complicate it? Do you feel happy more often than unhappy? Do not wait until the Titanic of your love sinks to the bottom, get in the boat! Otherwise, you may not find enough space on the rescue door.
6. Talk about love
Have you confessed your love to a partner just a couple of times and think that this is enough? Do not take your loved one for granted; be grateful that he chose you. You should learn how to build a conversation with a girl and confess your love properly. Remind the partnerof your love, pay compliments, and make pleasant little things more often. This is a simple and free, but at the same time, very meaningful token of appreciation.
7. Leave each other personal space
Not all the things people bring into relationship become common. You have the right to conduct private correspondence, engage in your favorite hobby, and have personal savings that you spend on the things you really need. And most importantly, your partner can do this all too. Just accept this fact.
8. Learn to understand each other correctly
In relationships, it is important to be able to listen and show empathy – to catch on the feelings that are hidden behind the words of a loved one. This is why family psychologists often use the “mirror image” method. For example, a husband says what he is conscious of. Then his wife retells the “complaint” in her own words. It is important not only to capture the essence but also to grasp the feelings experienced by the partner. It sounds simple, but in fact, it is incredibly difficult. The goal of “mirror” therapy is to understand each other’s emotions and experiences. It helps to resolve conflicts without mutual insults and understand the partner better.